Have you ever used the phrase: You hurt me or you hurt me, how many times have we said that to someone we love?. This fact makes me think about when we go to a Doctor's office because we have a persistent pain, if the doctor presses us where the affected area is, we complain; that pain is a reflection that internally we have an affection in our organism, the pain is only the result of what is happening inside us, the pressure that he made would not be difficult to bear, if we were not affected.
De igual manera, es innegable que todas las personas que amamos en algún momento van a lastimarnos, o decepcionarnos; en muchas ocasiones le damos excesiva importancia a nuestro malestar y al hecho de qué "nos han hecho daño" y aunque en cierta medida tenemos razón, es posible nuestras heridas preexistentes sean tan profundas, que nosotros no nos demos cuenta de que algo dentro de nosotros mismos, necesitamos resolver. Tal como un dolor constante nos indica que debemos tomar medidas, como acudir al médico, si existe algo, que nos afecta por mucho tiempo, son nuestras heridas emocionales pidiéndonos atención; por mucho que lo deseáramos nuestras heridas emocionales no van a "cicatrizar" por si solas, e ignorándolas, podemos seguir adelante pero es probable, que no podamos manifestar nuestro máximo potencial y nuestra alegría.
In the same way, it is undeniable that all the people we love at some point are going to hurt us, or disappoint us; in many occasions we give excessive importance to our discomfort and to the fact that "they have hurt us" and although to a certain extent we are right, it is possible that our pre-existing wounds are so deep that we do not realize that something inside ourselves needs to be resolved. Just as a constant pain tells us to take action, such as going to the doctor, if there is something, which affects us for a long time, it is our emotional wounds asking for our attention; as much as we would wish it, our emotional wounds will not "heal" by themselves, and by ignoring them, we can move forward but it is likely that we cannot manifest our full potential and our joy.
Si queremos sanar, debemos esforzarnos por hacer nuestra parte y atender ese malestar emocional. Solo así las acciones de los demás no nos van a afectar por tanto tiempo. ¿Cómo podemos lograrlo? Primero: debemos reconocer que lo que ha ocurrido nos afecta; en segundo lugar, debemos pensar ¿cómo podemos solucionarlo?, en muchos casos necesitaremos enfrentar esa situación y tener la determinación de que las cosas mejoren. Es importante destacar que las acciones de los demás, o sus palabras: no en todos los casos están concebidas para dañarnos, aunque lo pensemos en el calor del momento.
If we want to heal, we must make an effort to do our part and attend to that emotional discomfort. Only then will the actions of others not affect us for so long. How can we achieve this? First: we must recognize that what has happened affects us; second, we must think about how we can fix it, in many cases we will need to confront the situation and have the determination to make things better. It is important to emphasize that the actions of others, or their words, are not in all cases designed to harm us, even if we think so in the heat of the moment.
Incluso si llegamos a comprender que la persona que nos ha lastimado, sea por sus palabras o acciones, no es receptiva: no desea mejorar su relación con nosotros nos sentiremos en paz, sí nos hemos decidido a hacer todo lo que este a nuestro alcance, para resolver la situación, ciertamente esforzarnos por sanar siempre será la mejor opción. Otras veces nos sentimos completamente incapaces de superar ciertas cosas de nuestro pasado, ciertos sentimientos que por mucho tiempo hemos cargado con nosotros,además para nosotros son muy difíciles de superar,entonces es momento de aceptar que debemos cambiar, si esos sentimientos nos están haciendo daño, si no nos hacen vernos como debería ser.
Even if we come to understand that the person who has hurt us, either by his words or actions, is not receptive: he does not want to improve his relationship with us, we will feel at peace, if we have decided to do everything in our power to resolve the situation, certainly striving to heal will always be the best option. Other times we feel completely unable to overcome certain things from our past, certain feelings that for a long time we have carried with us, and they are very difficult for us to overcome, then it is time to accept that we must change, if those feelings are hurting us, if they do not make us see ourselves as we should be.
