It looks like some people have it easier than others.
Some of us are late comers; we achieve later what others had earlier achieved.
For some of us;
Our assignment seems tougher, our battles looks fiercer, and our journey seems longer.
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Our path, looks rugged, With lots of highs and lows. Steep rocks, stony grounds, and slippery floor seems to be where we daily tread._
When you belong to this class, your loved ones will become overly concerned. Which is okay. That's what they should naturally do.
The only problem is that most of them are not endowed with the tact needed to approach such issues.
Many of them are bankrupt of choice words needed in shooting confidence into the bones of someone who is already on the verge of breaking down. With their overzealousness, they will more often than not add salt to an already sore wound.
A young lady once said this to me "I don't know if my parents are the ones who actually birthed me? They don't treat me as their own"
Before I said anything to her, I gave a knowing smile.
Ever wondered why the people you think should love and support you are not doing that? At least they are not doing it to the best of your knowledge.
In most cases, our loved ones are the the biggest thorn in our flesh.
This battle is stronger in young adults. At that stage of your life, you're trying stamp your feet on the sands of time. You're trying create an identity, build an image or have a signature.
You want to do life.
If you don't get lucky early enough, you'll be looking out for someone to tell you that it's okay. You'll need a person to nudge you on and remind you that better days are ahead.
Isn't it ironic that the people we need these comfort and succour from the most, are the ones that would rather belittle our efforts, and underrate our strengths? Sometimes they subtly mock our seeming misfortunes.
You can feel so hated and unloved by the very people you expect the opposite from.
I think you should know this;
Some of our relatives don't hate us the way we would love to believe. Just as you'll love to believe that you deserve more credit than what you are getting from them, they might also be thinking that you should be more appreciative for the help they have offered.
Some of our relatives have done their best in helping us; at least they have, to the best of their knowledge and ability. Expecting something more from them is akin to looking out for pregnancy in a man.
No one gives what he doesn't have, neither can anyone do what he doesn't know.
Know this on time;
There are things people can never and would never do for you, no matter how hard they try.
The best any human can to is to help, which in this context would mean; to assist. That implies that everybody's role in your life is secondary. Your life is a show, you're the
main event, others are only featuring.
Don't expect people to do for you what you can't do for yourself. By this I mean immaterial things.
Don't only derive worth from people. Don't depend on anything external to feel loved and valued. Don't seek validation from anybody.
You are what you are whether anyone says so or not.
You're wonderful, the fact that someone fails to see it isn't your fault, it's theirs, they need a better lens.
Don't get me wrong; if you downplay my importance, I would be concerned, not for myself but for you. I'll perhaps be wondering what's blinding you from seeing the magnificence I'm made of.
The fight is not anybody's, it's yours.